The Art Of Detachment Is Pivotal To Our Mental Independence

When I see success, I remind myself, that this too shall pass. When I see failure, I remind myself, that this too shall pass. - Dan Go

The art of Detachment is probably one of the most misinterpreted concepts out there. A few common threads associated with this misinterpreted idea is that it is considered to be the trait of a complacent person or of one who withdraws from situations that fall outside of their comfort zone. These notions amongst others, could not be further from the reality of it.

Detachment is a way of life that helps you get involved in situations without having to marry the outcome. Let’s face it, when most of us get involved in a task or situation in our everyday lives, we tend to jump to conclusions about the outcome before having reached halfway through the process. One of the reasons for this behavior is that we tend to fall in love with the idea of doing something and the expected outcome we have created in our heads.

It's sort of like teenage infatuation.

Getting attached to something also means allowing yourself to be put in a vulnerable position as it takes up emotional headspace. The attachment issue is that it is usually unregulated and unchecked as it is built on a mountain of expectations that have a personal bias. While being attached to your loved ones and close friends do add depth and value in your relationships, being detached means to not get married to the image of those people you have created in your mind.

Being detached teaches you one of the most basic and yet profound lessons. The only thing permanent in life is change. Once you understand that, half of your problems disappear. Why? Because most of them were anyways self-inflicted by your idea of how things should be rather than accepting how they are.

Relationships

When it comes to our relationships, issues usually start to arise around the time your illusion of the person and the person itself do not match. This could apply to any kind of relation. A father-son, husband-wife, a couple of friends, or even siblings.

Quite often we tend to control every little detail, from the other person’s feelings to their reactions. By doing this, at a subconscious level, we tend to seek their validation for our opinion of